Believe in yourself.

“A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.” 

                              ~ Admiral Grace Hopper

I’m am a simple man of simple tastes. I enjoy the outdoors and being around my family. Give me my truck, my motorcycle, and my dog and I couldn’t be happier on the weekends. I have a job that pays well and gives me the free time I desire, so I couldn’t help but wonder why in the world I felt so empty when I seemed to have all the things that made me smile. Looking back now I know what I was lacking… Faith in myself.

For me, I’ve always been a minimalist. I see the clutter of the world and it drives me insane. Sometimes my simplistic lifestyle would become cluttered and it would easily overwhelm me. Be it a break up, a move, or a financial crisis, these bumps could really throw me off course. They would distract me so much that I would concern myself with the negative things and ignore how great life really was. These hurdles were so high that it took all my devotion and concentration to make it over. And in focusing only on these negative things, I lost connection with the things I loved. I came to a point where I felt lost, I felt trapped, and mostly, I just felt weak. It didn’t take long for me to realize that this is not the way I wanted to live, and that if I wanted to live differently I would have to change internally. 

Change did not come easy, as that empty feeling only made it more difficult to overcome my doubt. My mentality fought me every step of the way. I had many instances where I would be faced with a situation that once took my happiness away but managed to power through by simply believing in myself and reassuring my body and mind that the small problems in my life will never outshine the simple pleasures I hold so dear in my heart. I cannot stress how important it is to believe in yourself, as that might be all it takes to overcome even the toughest of the worlds obsticals. Do not doubt yourself, it truly can be that simple. The only way to find out is to believe in yourself, for yourself.

When faced with challenges, people approach them differently. Rather than radiating negativity towards the situation, think of it like a speed bump. You’ll have to slow down, and be careful but remember, it’s there for a reason.

An Open Letter To All Of My Friends Who Take Selfies

The Belle Jar

Dear Friends Who Take Selfies,

I want you to know that I love it when you post pictures of yourself. I know selfies get a lot of bad press, but I think they’re rad. They give me a little window into your life, and you’d be amazed at how much I can get out of one little photo.

I love your pictures because I love seeing what you’re wearing – the outfits you build give me ideas about how to mix it up with my own wardrobe, and seeing you work your shit gives me courage to try clothing that I otherwise might have thought was too outlandish or revealing.

I love seeing how you do your hair and makeup. You look like a hot babe and I wish you would make YouTube tutorials explaining how you get your eyeliner just so. I want you to post pictures every time you change your…

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No love for millennials. Top 3 reasons we can’t commit. 

Sex, drugs, social media and a fear of commitment. Why is it that millennials are losing their ability to be in a monogamous relationship? Has technology made it too easy for our eyes to wonder? Could it be the sex charged media and music industry telling women to have big butts in tight pants, while simultaneously telling men to make said women their property?  Let’s cut to the chase.

Social media. More like a social disease, right? In these days of txt messages and Facebook “pokes” we no longer have to try too hard to see the goods. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc give everyone the ability to see you, learn about you, and engage you all from the safety of their home. It’s the ultimate “play it safe” machine and as a species it doesn’t make sense. Not only is social media not ideal for starting a relationship, it can also be harmful for current ones, as the ability to cheat has become so easy. Cheating is bad, we can all agree. Anyway, what ever happened to engaging someone you had interest in? Maybe that cute girl at Starbucks? Afraid of getting shot down? Better memorize her name tag, add her on Facebook and be just like every other guy she knows.

Flings. Social media has made the hookup  too easy. There are even dedicated apps that help you search for potential partners to knock boots with. Apps like Tinder allow you to judge only on appearance and pick whether you like them or not. As shallow as that seems, it’s nothing out of the ordinary. Being able to hookup with attractive members of the opposite sex (or same sex, whatever you’re in to) with no strings attached just seems like another Saturday night to us. 

Indecisiveness. I can relate to this one 100% because I am a 23 year old guy who can’t even pick what curtains I want in my living room. Most of us want a relationship. We want someone to love and hold, someone to travel with, grow old with, and live with. Unfortunately, we also want freedom, spontaneity, and to not be tied down. We are afraid that you can only choose one way and that the only way to not get hurt or develop feelings is to stay right in the middle. Not too safe, not too boring. 

All in all I’m sure this doesn’t apply to everyone, some of my friends are married with loving families. But I’d say more of them are doing the single thing and I know for a fact that these are the reasons why. Thanks for reading.