Sex, drugs, social media and a fear of commitment. Why is it that millennials are losing their ability to be in a monogamous relationship? Has technology made it too easy for our eyes to wonder? Could it be the sex charged media and music industry telling women to have big butts in tight pants, while simultaneously telling men to make said women their property? Let’s cut to the chase.
Social media. More like a social disease, right? In these days of txt messages and Facebook “pokes” we no longer have to try too hard to see the goods. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc give everyone the ability to see you, learn about you, and engage you all from the safety of their home. It’s the ultimate “play it safe” machine and as a species it doesn’t make sense. Not only is social media not ideal for starting a relationship, it can also be harmful for current ones, as the ability to cheat has become so easy. Cheating is bad, we can all agree. Anyway, what ever happened to engaging someone you had interest in? Maybe that cute girl at Starbucks? Afraid of getting shot down? Better memorize her name tag, add her on Facebook and be just like every other guy she knows.
Flings. Social media has made the hookup too easy. There are even dedicated apps that help you search for potential partners to knock boots with. Apps like Tinder allow you to judge only on appearance and pick whether you like them or not. As shallow as that seems, it’s nothing out of the ordinary. Being able to hookup with attractive members of the opposite sex (or same sex, whatever you’re in to) with no strings attached just seems like another Saturday night to us.
Indecisiveness. I can relate to this one 100% because I am a 23 year old guy who can’t even pick what curtains I want in my living room. Most of us want a relationship. We want someone to love and hold, someone to travel with, grow old with, and live with. Unfortunately, we also want freedom, spontaneity, and to not be tied down. We are afraid that you can only choose one way and that the only way to not get hurt or develop feelings is to stay right in the middle. Not too safe, not too boring.
All in all I’m sure this doesn’t apply to everyone, some of my friends are married with loving families. But I’d say more of them are doing the single thing and I know for a fact that these are the reasons why. Thanks for reading.